How To Get Angry
How do you deal with the rough times in the ministry or life that might make
you angry. It’s not wrong when i get angry, but it’s what I do with that
anger that messes me up.
When someone makes me angry i can do two things wrong. I tend to do one or
the other.
1. *speak inappropriately* – if i can’t control my emotions and speak out
of turn or inappropriately then i can harm people as well as their respect
for me.
2. *not speak at all* – silent anger is not loyalty or even healthy. if i
stuff resentment upon resentment without saying anything, the final effect
is disengagement. disengaging from those i love and need destroys what we
are all trying to build.
We all have to learn how to find the balance of letting the first or second
offence go and chalk it up to a bad day. Then after that, if it continues,
be brave enough to talk with the “offender” about your perceptions. Follow
these simple but not so easy steps.
1. Get your emotions out by praying so you don’t communicate through
emotions. they make all communication unclear.
2. State facts of what happened only. Don’t use arbitrary words like
attitude, or sloppy, etc.
3. Ask them to talk with you about it.
4. Admit to what you did wrong even if they did things wrong first. Don’t be
defensive.
5. Fix anything you need to and leave their part up to them and the Holy
Spirit.
6. Repeat as needed.
The big key hear is stick to the facts, no your perception or emotions. They
will eventually get it if your not emotional but fact based. Hope this
helps.
